You have only 3–8 different lives left before you die, so choose wisely — You want a lot of things. Perhaps better physique, deeper relationships with your family, or just allowing yourself to enjoy life more. But when can say that your life is “successful”? How will you know that you have achieved the life you want? The truth is you won’t — unless…

To feel more good about your life — stop taking that which gets you emotional so seriously — We all have areas in our lives where our emotions control us more than we want. Maybe we have a complex relationship with food — obsessively counting calories or always eating too much. Maybe it’s exercise — either dreading to work out or compulsively going to the gym every day…

If you want to be successfully happy — choose the journey you would be most willing to fail at — Most of us have come across a sentence that has made a lasting impact on how we think about the world. My such sentence came from the author Napolean Hill and is just three words short: “Ultimately, nothing matters.” This phrase shook me so much because I have always been…

How I got trapped with a bad exercising goal — and what made me realize I should quit — Our society loves goals. Setting them, working towards them, and achieving them is what success is all about. But the quest for constant improvement also has a dark side — we sometime pursue goals that don’t serve us. …

Why you should stop prioritizing tasks on importance and urgency — and start using this framework instead — We often prioritize tasks based on two criteria: importance and urgency. These two dimensions form the basis of the Eisenhower Decision Matrix for processing tasks. Depending on the importance and urgency of the task, we either Do, Decide, Delegate, or Delete it.

Three tips that will make you love listening to others — In this Listening to Others series, I’ve shared multiple strategies for how you can be a better listener. But none of these techniques will work unless you first have accomplished one thing: You must want to be a good listener. When you decide that making others feel heard is a…

How to control your emotions when what someone says frustrates, angers, or hurts you. — True listening is one of the greatest gifts we can give someone. But too often we forget the first law of listening: You can’t listen and focus on yourself at the same time. Listening only works if we divert our full energy to understanding the other person. This is why…

Why others become upset when you try to help — and the #1 thing you should do differently to make them feel heard — You have probably been there — a friend shares a problem they are struggling with, you try to reassure them by giving advice, but instead of appreciating your help, your friends only become defensive and frustrated with you. Why do people share their problems if they don’t want our help?

Why others resist your ideas and how you can arrive at even better solutions together — Remember that last time when you clearly saw that the other person was wrong, but they stubbornly refused to listen to you. …